Wednesday, 21 March 2012

COURAGE AND CONFIDENCE TO FACE YOURS FEARS

Some people think that courage and confidence are comparable, while others think they’re opposed to each other.
What is courage?
Courage, as people say, is the grace under pressure. It is the ability to stand even after a great fall. It is the overcoming of adversities regardless of the odds. And most of the time, it is the belief that everything is sensible even if the circumstance is beyond our understanding. It can be physical bravery, when you are able to withstand physical pain or moral courage when you have the guts to do the right thing in the face of antagonism. It’s like being trapped between a rock and a hard place and still able to break out from it. As Mark Twain put it in plain words, ‘Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it.’What is Confidence?It is how you hold yourself in any given situation. It’s about thinking about yourself and feeling good about it. It’s the acceptance of consequences that may arise from a situation, may it be good or bad, and not dwelling too much about it. It’s finding accomplishment instead of drowning in the possibility of failure. But do not mistake being confident to thinking that you are better than others and acting all high and mighty. That’s arrogance, not confidence.Are Courage and Confidence Parallel or Paradoxical?Courage is the assurance that you can win despite your fear. Confidence is the courage to think that you are capable of doing something. Some people believe that courage is more of an emotional thing while confidence is more of an intellectual thing. Others believe that to have one is to have another. Defining courage and confidence is like giving meaning to something that is too complex and too simple at the same time. But whatever it is that you believe in, it is important to have bravery and self-assurance You can’t just feel them in a heartbeat, so how do you go from cowering and running away to being cool, calm and collected?How to achieve courage and confidence?The first step to achieve bravery and confidence is doing a reality check. What is it that’s holding you back? What is it that makes you fearful? Why do you feel incompetent upon given situation? Identify your weaknesses and strengths. If you know your strengths, utilize it. Exploit it! Start with small things first and try to accomplish it. Even a tiny bit of fulfilment will boost your morale and help you explore bigger things. When it comes to your weakness, ever heard of desensitization? It is a technique used in overcoming fears. To put it simply, it’s like exposing yourself to your fear bit by bit, until you’re no longer susceptible to it. The more exposure, the more you've become used to it.Self-consciousness can also deter you from having courage and confidence. If you keep finding fault in yourself, the more you beat down your self- assurance and slowly extinguishing the hidden bravery in you, because you are your worst critic.
Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful
Mark Victor Hansen.

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Uhanan Mimi

Thursday, 15 March 2012

A REASON, A SEASON, A LIFETIME

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong -doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for  a season.
 LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. 
Thank you for being a part of my life

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Uhanan Mimi

Thursday, 1 March 2012

TURNING DREAMS TO REALITY

How many times do you sacrifice your dreams because reality says you should do so? As we journey through life we have ideas and dreams of how our lives should be. We develop certain ideals as yard-sticks-but reality soon sets in.
When we think of reality we think of being in a state of what's real. The role of reality is to wake you up from dreaming but it should not stop you from dreaming nor should it stop you from turning your dreams into reality. Reality is self perceived-you have the power to not only change your surroundings but to create your own reality.Don't let the power of "reality" dictate what you can or cannot achieve. Remember reality is self-perceived. Do not let reality control you. You create reality, don't let it create you!

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Mimee PK