BE AN OVERCOMER

When you look deep within yourself, there lies a hidden compartment where strength lives. Everything in life that happens to you whether good or bad-is all for your benefit. When you look back on past events that almost stole your happiness, your trust and your whole being--you realize now that you did not die but in fact you are alive and well. The aftermath of failure, downfall, depression, sickness, and disappointments are success, happiness, and achievements. When you resolve in yourself and in your mind that nothing absolutely nothing can stop you--that is when life begins.You are unmovable, insurmountable and undefeatable. Nothing can take away your pride, happiness, success or your self being without your permission. You must go through life with authority, believing that you can overcome any and everything. Being an overcomer is a choice and a lifestyle. An overcomer is a person who goes through with an understanding that everything happens for his or her own good. 

I challenge you to be an overcomer today. To go through life with authority and to tap into your vault of strength. Show the world that you are indeed unstoppable.Remember that you have the power to change the direction of your life. Being an overcomer is not only a choice but a lifestyle as well.

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Uhanan Mimi

FEELING BLESSED

Do you feel blessed? Some people wonder what it means to be blessed. The word blessed can mean a number of things such as blissful, having great happiness, and having comfort or joy. Being blessed is both spiritual and physical. To feel more blessed, take time to understand the meaning and purpose of the word.What's the Meaning of Being Blessed?There are many things that can help you feel blessed by God, and each person has different things that work for them. When you are blessed, God’s character is incorporated into you and your everyday activities. To be blessed means that you give thanks for things in your life and are grateful. Hardships are even a part of feeling blessed as not everything is positive.

Tips to Feel Blessed

Some of us feel stressed rather than blessed and look for ways to feel blessed. Here are a few things that you can do to feel more blessed daily:

Breathe!

You should realize that you are not the only one feeling stressed. No matter how strong your faith may be, we all can become stressed. Stop and take a breathe and just relax. Deep breathing calms the mind.

Don’t Become Isolated

Make sure you are around friends as well as family to keep you social and not alone. If you have people you have not seen or talked to for a long time, give them a call and talk to them. Catch up on old times. Listen to them share their experiences with you.Having friends to talk to means you are blessed and it's worth it.

Random Acts of Kindness

Another great way to feel blessed is to send a random act of kindness to a friend or someone. For example, send flowers or a card to a friend or family member who is sick. You can also send an e-mail or even a text message to let someone know you are thinking of them. There are many things you can do to show kindness to others.

Count Your Blessings

Each night before you go to bed, take a minute to think about all of the many things you have to be thankful for in your life. Think about the many good things that happened to you during the day. Even the small things count as sometimes we seem to forget that the small things can have a huge impact on ourselves and others.

Move About

Instead of sitting on the couch, get up. Move around and take a walk or do some yard work. A great thing to do is to act as if you are a tourist and see what your entire town has to offer. Go buy yourself something nice.

Focus on what the word ‘blessed’ means to you and work proactively to encourage more of the feeling in your own life.
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Uhanan Mimi

HONOURING YOURSELF

For Single Ladies:7 Important points on Honouring Yourself.

1. A relationship is about mutual respect and honour.

2. You are worthy of honour and respect. If you don’t learn to honour yourself, you won’t be honoured in your relationship. If you don’t love yourself, no one will love you.

3. Learn to treat yourself with respect. Your significant other observes the way you treat yourself. If you treat yourself badly, guess how you will be treated by your significant other?

4. If something dishonours you in any way, you have to face it and stop it in your life. For instance, if you work in a place where you are treated less than a human being, it will crush your spirit and make you feel bad about yourself. Simply do all within your power to find another job.

5. We teach people how to treat us. If you don’t show your significant other how you want to be treated, you will be treated the best way that he knows how to and that may not be good for you. Gently explain to him the way you love to be treated and be ready to do the same for him.

6. A relationship is not a slave contraption. It is a value contraption. If you have to dishonour yourself to remain in a relationship, you are better off without it. Don’t beg to remain in a relationship in which you are not wanted, respected and honoured.

7. The more value you add to yourself, the more it will reflect in your relationship and in the way you are treated by your significant other. Value attracts honour and respect. In Proverbs 31, a woman of value attracts the respect of her husband:her husband ‘praises her and calls her the best.’ You can be the same.
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Uhanan Mimi

COURAGE AND CONFIDENCE TO FACE YOURS FEARS

Some people think that courage and confidence are comparable, while others think they’re opposed to each other.
What is courage?
Courage, as people say, is the grace under pressure. It is the ability to stand even after a great fall. It is the overcoming of adversities regardless of the odds. And most of the time, it is the belief that everything is sensible even if the circumstance is beyond our understanding. It can be physical bravery, when you are able to withstand physical pain or moral courage when you have the guts to do the right thing in the face of antagonism. It’s like being trapped between a rock and a hard place and still able to break out from it. As Mark Twain put it in plain words, ‘Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it.’What is Confidence?It is how you hold yourself in any given situation. It’s about thinking about yourself and feeling good about it. It’s the acceptance of consequences that may arise from a situation, may it be good or bad, and not dwelling too much about it. It’s finding accomplishment instead of drowning in the possibility of failure. But do not mistake being confident to thinking that you are better than others and acting all high and mighty. That’s arrogance, not confidence.Are Courage and Confidence Parallel or Paradoxical?Courage is the assurance that you can win despite your fear. Confidence is the courage to think that you are capable of doing something. Some people believe that courage is more of an emotional thing while confidence is more of an intellectual thing. Others believe that to have one is to have another. Defining courage and confidence is like giving meaning to something that is too complex and too simple at the same time. But whatever it is that you believe in, it is important to have bravery and self-assurance You can’t just feel them in a heartbeat, so how do you go from cowering and running away to being cool, calm and collected?How to achieve courage and confidence?The first step to achieve bravery and confidence is doing a reality check. What is it that’s holding you back? What is it that makes you fearful? Why do you feel incompetent upon given situation? Identify your weaknesses and strengths. If you know your strengths, utilize it. Exploit it! Start with small things first and try to accomplish it. Even a tiny bit of fulfilment will boost your morale and help you explore bigger things. When it comes to your weakness, ever heard of desensitization? It is a technique used in overcoming fears. To put it simply, it’s like exposing yourself to your fear bit by bit, until you’re no longer susceptible to it. The more exposure, the more you've become used to it.Self-consciousness can also deter you from having courage and confidence. If you keep finding fault in yourself, the more you beat down your self- assurance and slowly extinguishing the hidden bravery in you, because you are your worst critic.
Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful
Mark Victor Hansen.

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Uhanan Mimi

A REASON, A SEASON, A LIFETIME

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong -doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for  a season.

 LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. 
Thank you for being a part of my life

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Uhanan Mimi

TURNING DREAMS TO REALITY

How many times do you sacrifice your dreams because reality says you should do so? As we journey through life we have ideas and dreams of how our lives should be. We develop certain ideals as yard-sticks-but reality soon sets in.
When we think of reality we think of being in a state of what's real. The role of reality is to wake you up from dreaming but it should not stop you from dreaming nor should it stop you from turning your dreams into reality. Reality is self perceived-you have the power to not only change your surroundings but to create your own reality.Don't let the power of "reality" dictate what you can or cannot achieve. Remember reality is self-perceived. Do not let reality control you. You create reality, don't let it create you!

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I OWN EVERYTHING ABOUT ME

I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it -- I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know -- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.

Virginia Satir

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Uhanan Mimi

HOW TO MANAGE SELF DOUBT

Self doubt is a limiting factor and should be eliminated from our thoughts in order to achieve the accomplishments we set out for ourselves. Not one person is better than the rest or even perfect than the rest. There are a few different ways to help eliminate the self doubt you may have. There are a few different ways to achieve this and you may need to try a few different methods to find what suits you.
7 ways to conquer Self Doubt
Talk to Others
A great way to manage your self doubt is to find someone who has gone through the same thing and has done what you are trying to do; a mentor so to speak. This will give you the opportunity to see how they have achieved their accomplishments, giving you the confidence and roadmap to achieve them yourself.

Be Compassionate

You should find ways to be thankful for things in your life. If you show compassion towards others, this can let them know that you have empathy. Don’t be afraid to show compassion as you will get the same in return.

Laugh

Laughter is a great way to help manage self doubt. Try to find humor with everyday activities you do. You will feel more confident when you laugh and you will notice the self-doubt disappear almost instantly. Laughter can be a great stress reliever and is good for your health.

Don’t Give Up

If you have a goal or dream you want to reach, don’t let anything stand in your way. If you are faced with a dilemma, try to find ways to work through it instead of giving up.

Overcome Weaknesses

This is another great way to help eliminate self doubt. If you are working towards achieving something and come across a weakness, try to think of a way to avoid it. Set up a fame plan to help you along the way. Once you have one in place, use it and you will be able to overcome any weakness that may present itself.

Making Mistakes

By admitting that you are wrong when you make a mistake, you are showing others that you can stand up for yourself. People will also have more respect for you. People tend to have a higher self-esteem when they are respected by others. No one is better or perfect than the rest of us and being around those that do think they are perfect can make others feel bad about themselves.

Take Up a Hobby

Taking up a hobby can also help increase your self-esteem. Taking up a hobby can also give you a feeling of accomplishment. You may also have a more positive attitude and feel more confident about yourself. Take up gardening, or a type of sport, or anything that interests you.
By eliminating self doubt from your life, you will be able to achieve your dreams and goals. Stay positive as this will also make things easier for you and can help reach your dreams. Not only will doing good things for yourself create a self-image that is positive, but so will doing things for others around you.
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Uhanan Mimi

CREATING A FIRM FOUNDATION

Plant your feet in solid ground. Build your house on rock rather than sand. Build lasting relationship rather than fleeting romances. Seek the house of the Lord rather than the "House" then the Lord. These are some catch phrases to remind you to create a firm foundation. Why is it important to create a firm foundation, I will tell you why? Creating a firm foundation prevents you from loosing your yourself and everything you have worked hard for.

How do you create a firm foundation? You create it by building your life upon principles, individual set of values, morals, your religion and so forth. Principles like honesty, integrity and values like responsibility and bravery. Each value system differs from person to person. By governing your life by these ideals, it will help during the most difficult time. As for me my faith in God helps me through many situations. I'm not the type of person to carry my relationship with God on my shoulder rather I choose to carry it in heart and mind. Those are the values and beliefs that govern my life and in which I choose to build my house upon.

It is important that we let our beliefs and morals be at the forefront in our lives. Let it guide you and speak for you. Your actions speak louder than your words. And your actions are a depiction of your lifestyle. And your lifestyle is a mirror of who you are. Remember every great structure needs a firm foundation.

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Uhanan Mimi

MOVING FORWARD

This is the time where we all need to continue to press forward. There is no other time like now in which our present and future calls us to become manifestations of our dreams. We all have goals and visions in life. And we must fulfill them. Your destiny will partly help but perserverance solidfies it. Many of us have dreams and goals that are like visions in which we seize to nurture. The time is now for you to carry out the goals you set before yourself. Whether it be a new business, finishing school and etc.--the reason why is because, there are some of you who are chosen to make a significant difference. And you must take advantage of time. We are discouraged and perplexed from many angles...still yet you must move forward. You cannot let your problems (or what you view as problems) deter you from your goals. This may sound cliche...but it is the truth. I come across alot of people who have something powerful about them, but sadly they don't know it or realize it yet. Time waits for no man and time will pick someone else if you are not ready to step up to the plate. The reason why we do not have transformational leaders such as Martin Luther King Jr. or Mahandis Ghandi is because many of us are not willing to make huge sacrifices for the betterment of thier neighbor. We believe by getting an education we then educate the youth...yes..but our youths need visible leaders who will inspire them to become higher than just teachers or professors. We don't need to read about social movements or non violent protests...we need inspiration to have one.
We need to be inspired to write books, not to read them. To make speeches, not to listen to them. To become leaders, not to read about them. As an individual we need to move forward in our own personal lives. We need to become more active in this process of life.


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Uhanan Mimi

A CONFIDENT WOMAN

A confident woman is a strong woman. She is rooted in her values and convicted by her truths. She walks with authority and does not settle for less. A confident woman is a hard-working woman, who is aware of her gifts and basks in her accomplishments. Are you a confident woman?
Here are ten steps to building your confidence:
1. Be comfortable in your own skin.
2. Look good and feel good.
3. Work towards becoming a better you.
4. Write your goals on paper.
5. Read self-help books.
6. Surround yourself with positive people.
7. Discover your passions and strengths.
8. Speak Up.
9. Look Up
10. Love yourself.

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Uhanan Mimi

EMPATHY

The power of empathy, to be able to feel, identify and relate to the experiences of others. How different would this world be, if people could sense and feel the pain of others? If we could picture ourselves in the shoes of others and understand their world, I believe it would be a better world. The problem with people is that when we look at others we only look but we do not feel. We ought to be grateful and appreciative to God because we could be in the same situations as others has found themselves to be in.
The whole point of life in my perspective is to see how your life can be meaningful to others. It is to learn from people, help others, be kind and respectful and most of all be empathic and compassionate. It takes a sincere human being to truly understand others, to understand their actions, decision, mistakes, grievances, accomplishments and so much more. It takes a pure-hearted person to not turn their nose up to a homeless person or to look down on a prostitute. Life is all about circumstances, it is because of circumstances that people find themselves in certain situations. You could have been that homeless person or that prostitute, but it is by the grace of God that you are where you are. And it is the grace of God that you have come out of whatever demons that troubled you.
Learn how to love genuinely, talk with honesty, walk with integrity, feel with empathy, hear with wisdom and act as if you owed the world your life. It is not enough to say, "I know how you feel," the world needs more people who not only understands but to truly feels.

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Uhanan Mimi

MARRIAGE

I have decided to write on something totally different from that which I am used to. A topic I chose because I have friends who have recently gotten into it, are about getting into it and also because I know that eventually, I will get into it. The topic is marriage. The institution of marriage is one I know nothing about except what is on the surface. My opinions are a product of other people’s experiences and hearsay. My views are based on assessments from the outside. A layman’s views if you like.Some people see marriage as a moral requirement. Others see it as an social necessity. More often than not, people view marriage as a religious obligation.Whatever the reason for people deciding to get married, the decision in it self has far reaching consequences. This is because marriage transcends the two people who are getting into it. It brings about the merging of cultures, habits and most importantly, families.
Marriage for me is one of those institutions whose dignity and sanctity cannot be over emphasised. A journey whose destination is unknown.It's a journey which those embarking on have no clear or predetermined route. A union that goes beyond love or whatever reasons one has for getting into it. A decision that involves the rest of peoples’ lives and most importantly, a process that involves bringing into the world, new life. In Nigerian lingo, it is not a joking matter.Based on what I conceive marriage to be, I fear that my generation is headed for trouble based on the alarming rate at which some young couples choose to end their marriages at the expense of not just their happiness, but the happiness of family, friends, well wishers and worst of all, young children. I also fear, that my generation is yet to fully comprehend the requirements of marriage and doctrines that guard it with my humble self included.I do not know what causes marriages to fail. I do not know what makes marriages work. I do not know what a successful marriage is ought to be or how success in marriage is measured. What I do know however is what a failed marriage is and I do not wish it on my worst enemy.I urge anyone getting married to understand that the marriage path may not always be smooth. To recognise that differences may arise and tempers may flare. One should however, not give in to that notion that ending the union might be the best way out. If however, one has to take that bitter decision, then one should take it knowing they tried all that was humanly possible to not become another divorce statistic.I pen this piece not because I am a pessimist or afraid of marriage, I write this because failed marriages leave wounds and scars that may never be healed even with time. Failed marriages are anti-climaxes that shed a bad light on an otherwise respectable institution. Failed marriages lead to social decline and moral decadence. Something no society should allow and fight to stop.
I take this opportunity to say congratulations to anyone that has recently got married and also to wish anyone getting married a blissful union and happy days ahead. To my yet-to-be married husband whoever and wherever he may be, I shall try all in my power not to let our marriage be a failed one.

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Uhanan Mimi

CREATING YOUR OWN PASSION

Whether you are straight out of school or simply stuck in a career that is unfulfilling, you may be thinking-there must be something more to life. For everyone, there is…and this is called your passion. It is that hobby, that talent, that activity that really makes you excited-something you just need to know more about, and are compelled to in every way. No matter where you are in the spectrum of things in your life, it is never too late to start seeking out this passion. The sooner you do, the sooner you can start living a fulfilled and happy life. This is said, where do you start, and what do you do? Here are the most important steps to finding and creating your own life’s passion.

1. Interests: The best start when seeking out your life’s passion is to consider what hobbies and interests you may have that really make you feel happy-when you think about them, when you do them, and also how much time you spend doing them. There will be many interests and hobbies that are just that, but start looking at your interests as possible careers; and you could easily find a passion for your life.
2. Talents: Where your interests and hobbies are founded is whether or not you have a talent for it. Unfortunately, not all interests we have are things that we have talent in. This said, in order to find a passion-you need both. Just remember, even if you do not have a knack for one hobby or interest, do not become disheartened, as we all have a talent or two for something; and this something could be a fulfilling.
3. Open Your Mind: It is absolutely necessary that someone seeking a passion in life understand that they must open their minds to possible industries, avenues, and possible activities that they might not have originally found interesting or possible because of circumstances. It is only through this opening of the mind that a person can fully appreciate a possible excitement for something new or existing.
4. Learn About Various Fields: Do your research on a broad range of fields before choosing one or another. The only way to find the right field for you is to take a look at what niches, industries, and jobs exist; and which ones really make you excited and interested. Do your research, make a list of possible jobs and industries, and ask people who work in the field and positions. This way, you can gain a truly complete idea of what is involved with your possible passion.
5. Keep At It: Lastly, once you find the thing that makes you tick and makes you feel excited when you wake up just to do it, keep at it. Make sure you never give up, and you do all you can to make it work. It is, after all, your passion.

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Mimee PK